Place an ad to tell it all

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Going online is a fun way to find friendships and love. So what is holding you back? Is it something as inane as being nervous about writing your own personal ad? Well, you are not alone. It can be scary. You will be seized by doubts like – will anyone like me for me? Will I get flooded with emails from losers? In fact, you can come up with a million reasons why you should quit right now. The only problem is, online personals work! So, give it a try.

Remember, your personal ad should reflect an honest image of you, expressing who you are and what you expect. Write in terms of what you want, rather than what you are trying to avoid. Attraction works better than avoidance. Avoid common opening lines like “nice girl looking for a nice boy…” Set yourself apart from the crowd. Imagine the person of your dreams is reading your personal. Give them something to grab their attention. And provide enough information about yourself.

Still not sure what to include in your personal ad? Here are some suggestions:

  • Be honest when you describe yourself. Focus on your positive qualities.
  • Try to think of what you would want to know about someone else, and then work those points into your description of yourself. People are more likely to respond to your ad if they are attracted by something they have learned about you.
  • Be creative. Make your ad stands out by including something special, like a quote, your most memorable experience, or your most intriguing feature.
  • If you have a sense of humor, show it. Just do not go overboard. After all, you are setting the tone for the type of people who will respond to it.
  • A picture speaks a thousand words. Appearances do matter. Post your current photograph to the profile. If people can find out that they are, or are not, attracted to you sooner, rather than later, it is a plus.
  • Make sure you proofread your final version. Your first impression is the last.

Do not lie. Remember, you could end up meeting someone who reads your ad. Honesty can prevent disappointment for both you and your potential date.

Do not write your whole life history, just enough to catch someone’s attention.

Do not include detailed, personal information e.g., your address and phone number in an ad. You could give out personal information in future correspondence. But be sure you are giving it to someone you can trust.

Get prepared for a flood of responses in the first few days. Set up different folders for your mail with appropriate categories. “Respond To” for the good ones. “Maybe” for the ones that just makes the grade. “Nope” for the ones without enough info. “Never” for the responses that you would delete right away.
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